"CON'FILITY" (How to Master Confidence and Humility)

Confidence is very often confused with arrogance, especially in women who just want to be noticed and fit in. Knowing the difference between being confident and pomposity is the key to maintaining healthy relationships with new and old female acquaintances. It's perfectly okay to be assertive, poised, and even self-assured, and by all means, if that is who you are, then be yourself; but remember to take your humility with you. Understanding how to "match styles" when in the company of non-friends, is paramount in influencing people, and winning friends. You have heard the saying "When in Rome." All that really means is that you should "know your audience." Not knowing or understanding your audience places you at a disadvantage, and takes your newly introduced spectators from hello, to "that was awkward." This concept should not take you out of your element, rather provide a sense of being cognizant of who you are in the company of, and why you are there. If it's a mixer, then mix.  Wait for the welcoming smile, nod, or salute, then begin to let your guard down layer by layer. On the other hand, if you are attending a more serious or business setting, then be resolute in your approach, allowing the culture of the evening to guide you. Some might say this concept is being disingenuous, or insincere when in reality, you are absorbing and embracing a teachable moment. So the next time you are the newbie, welcome the opportunity to learn how to fit in, while still allowing your personal self to embody your unique character and charm.