Relationships....... the dreaded unit that drives up internal impulses, with the ability to silence even the most confident woman in the world. Many women are of the opinion that when a relationship fails, there is some underlying issue or cause that remanded the failure. In reality, most people are looking to a relationship for the wrong reasons such as affirmation, confirmation, and someone to fill the void that has plagued them for a lifetime. You've heard the song " Looking for love in all the wrong places." True Love is not elusive, it's compelling. No need to send out a search party, just be yourself, True Love will join your life path. Love is a complement, not a component. Therefore if the relationship fails, the component itself is still "whole", and a testament to soundness and completeness with or without the loss. Loves can resemble a shiny new car that is perfect. However, age, wear, and tear which will naturally and inevitably occur, can sometimes encourage the inclination for one or the other to trade it in, buy a new one, or sell the vehicle altogether, and sometimes even less than market value. You get the point right? True and Perfect love is eternal, it's internal, and it originates from a place of emotional refinement and reckoning. What that means is that true love is first loving and admiring yourself, your body, mind, and spirit, while submerging yourself in your self-applause, self-esteem, and self-appreciation. That love will then transcends itself into a relationship where true love is being emotionally intelligent, knowing that with all your flaws, there is no mental or emotional vacancy or poignant regret. So, to understand what "True Love" really is, one must travel the road of "I am able to love myself so that I am capable of loving and being loved." Seeking love to simply fulfill you is like welcoming defeat to your emotional psyche, and subconsciously surrendering to failure, because of what has been lost, as opposed to "who you are." Remember, " Love doesn't fulfill you, it graces you. Love doesn't fill you up, it allows you to be filled. When love is misplaced, it falls short of its purpose. It renders finger pointing, blaming and fault calling. If you really want to find true love, first find yourself, and methodically examine in detail what it will take to graduate you to "Self Love" which undoubtedly constitutes wholeness and harmonious self-integrity. Then....... you will be ready to embrace the healthy relationship with your soul mate, and invoke the tangible demonstration of what it really means to love and to be loved.
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